ब्राह्मण म्हणजे काय?
हे फक्त अश्या लोकांनी वाचावे ज्यांना खरोखर खूप खोल वर विचार करता येणे शक्य आहे.
आज माझ्या सर्टिफिकेट वर ब्राह्मण हा शिक्का आहे. मला पण लहानपणी वाटायचे की ब्राह्मण आहोत आपण. आणि अभिमान देखील होता. तसेच प्रत्येक माणसाला त्याच्या जातीचा अभिमान असणे साहजिक आहे. आता जातीं मध्ये देखील खूप पोट प्रकार आहेत. ते सध्या बाजूस ठेवू.
मी मोठा होत गेलो तसे स्वतः विचार करू लागलो, की नक्की काय आहोत आपण. पुस्तके वाचत गेलो त्यातून निरनिराळी मते वाचली. मी माझे मत हळूहळू बनवायला लागलो. विचार करून.
मुळात ब्राह्मण, क्षत्रिय, वैश्य आणि शूद्र हे प्रकार का आले? त्याचे अर्थ काय?
मला बाकीचे माहीत नाही पण ब्राह्मण या शब्द बद्दल मे बोलू शकतो. करण हा शब्द मला जन्मापासून चिकटवलेला आहे. आणि हा शब्द खूपदा वाचनात देखील आला.
मी या शब्दाचा मला समजला अर्थ मांडायचा प्रयत्न करणार आहे. त्यासाठी खलील काही गोष्टी समजून घेणे फार महत्वाचे आहे.
वेद उपनिषद यांमध्ये ब्रह्मन् हा शब्द खूपदा आलेला आहे. मुखत: अद्वैत वेदांत आणि मांडुक उपनिषद हे ब्रह्मन् हा शब्द खूप वेळा वापरते. ब्रह्मन् या शब्दाचा अर्थ प्रत्यक्ष ब्रह्म किंवा परमेश्वर याला उद्देशून वापरला आहे. संतांनी सोप्या शब्दात परमेश्वर किंवा मी समजवायचा प्रयत्न केला.असे सांगून की परमेश्वर चराचरात आहे.आपण जर खोलात जाऊन वेदांत काय सांगतो हे पाहू. आपण आजचा समाज बुद्धिजीवी आहोत
खाली दिलेली अद्वैत वेदांत ने सांगितलेली “मी” ची व्याख्या नीट वाचा. फार confusing आहे ती.
मी स्वतः जो या देहात बसलेला आहे. जो हा देह चालवतो. पण मी म्हणजे कोण?
जो हा देह नाही. मन नाही, बुद्धी नाही, काहीच नाही असे पण नाही. असा असलेला जो कोणी आहे तो म्हणजे खरा मी.
ते तत्व सगळ्यांच्यात आणि सगळ्या चराचारात आहे तेच. पण हा मी कोणालाच समजत नाही आणि जाणून देखील घेता येत नाही.
कारण ज्याला आपण physically experience करू शकत नाही ते आपण कसे मानणार?
जी गोष्ट आपले मन देखील नाही त्याला कसे imagine करणार?
जी गोष्ट आपली बुद्धी देखील नाही त्या बद्दलचे ज्ञान कसे मिळवणार?
कोणी म्हणेल मग हा “मी“असे काही असतो का खरोखर?
हो असतो. कारण आपल्याला ही जाणीव असते की मी आहे. माझा हात तुटला किंवा पाय तुटला तर आपण काय म्हणू? की माझा हात तुटला. म्हणजे जोपर्यंत तो हात या शरीराला जोडून होता तोपर्यंत मे त्याला मीच समजत होतो. आता तो बाजूला आहे म्हणजे मी त्याला माझा हात असे म्हणतोय. म्हणजेच तो हात म्हणजे मी नव्हे.
आत्ता पर्यंत मे जो शर्ट घातला होता तोपर्यंत मी त्या शर्टाला पकडून मी असा स्वतःचा उल्लेख करतो. पण जेव्हा मी शर्ट काढून बाजूला ठेवतो तेव्हा तो शर्ट वेगळा आणि मी वेगळा हे मला कळते. तसेच शरीर मन बुद्धी एक एक बाजूला करत जायला माणूस शिकेल तसे त्याला हे कळत जाते की मी म्हणजे शरीर नव्हे, मन नव्हे आणि बुद्धी देखील नाही.
मी आपण सतत अनुभवत असतोच.उदाहरण द्येयचे झाले तर अगदी छान उदाहरण आहे माझ्याकडे मे स्वतः तयार केलेले
आपण आपल्या डोळ्यांनी सगळे जग बघतो. पण आपण स्वतःचा चेहरा कधीही आयुष्यात प्रत्यक्ष बघू शकत नाही. मी “प्रत्यक्ष” हा शब्द वापरला आहे हे लक्षात घ्या. मी माझा चेहरा कधीच पाहू शकत नाही. हो आरसा किंवा काही गोष्टीत आपण आपल्या चेहऱ्याचे प्रतिबिंब बघतो. पण ते प्रतिबिंब असते. प्रत्यक्ष मी नसतो. जसा आरसा असेल तसे ते प्रतिबिंब दिसेल. पण स्वतःच्या डोळ्यांनी स्वतःचा चेहरा बघणे शक्यच नाहीये. म्हणजेच स्वतःला direct आपण कधीच बघू शकणार नाही.
पण याचा अर्थ असा आहे का की मला चेहरा नाहीच आहे? आपल्याला चेहरा आहे याची जाणीव आपल्याला 100 टक्के असते. पण आपण तो बघू शकत नाही. Exactly तसेच “मी” जो कोणी आहे त्याचे वर्णन करता येईल. की तो “मी“आहे हि जाणीव आपल्याला 24 तास असते. पण जागे असताना आपण स्वतःच्या शरीराला आपण मी असे समजतो. झोपलेले असताना स्वतःच्या स्वप्नात जो कोणी असतो म्हणजेच मनाला मी असे समजतो. तर गाढ झोपेमध्ये ज्याला deep sleep म्हणतात तेथे तर काहीही नसून देखील मी हा असतोच.
जसे मला चेहरा बघता येत नसताना देखील हा दृढ विश्वास असतो, ही जाणीव असते की मला चेहरा आहे. फक्त मे तो पाहू शकत नहीये पण मला जाणीव आणि खात्री आहे की मला चेहरा आहे.
तीच जाणीव “मी” ची असते. तो हा न दिसणारा , जाणवणारा मी म्हणजे ब्रह्मन्. व त्याची जाणीव ज्या व्यक्तीला सतत असते त्याला हे देखील कळलेले असते की हाच मी सर्वत्र आहे. 24 तास ही जाणीव असणे हेच खरे आत्मज्ञान. आणि ते मिळवणारा खरा ब्राह्मण.
तर या मी ला जाणून घेणे … अहंब्राह्मस्मि किंवा तत्वामसी किंवा सोSहम म्हणजेच प्रत्यक्ष ब्रह्म (ब्रह्मन्) आणि परमेश्वर मीच आहे. हे ओळखणे या मार्गावर चालणाऱ्या माणसाला ब्राह्मण म्हंटले जाते.
परमेश्वर किंवा स्वत्व याचा साक्षात्कार होण्यासाठी देव देवता यज्ञ याग जात धर्म याची खर तर कसलीच गरज नसते. तर स्वतःचे आकलन करत जाणे याची गरज असते. नास्तिकातला नास्तिक देखील ते मिळवू शकतो असेच मांडुकोपनिषद सांगते.
आणि यासाठी देवाला मानले पाहिजे असेही नाहीये ही याची खासियत आहे. खास करून नास्तिक लोकांचा विचारच यात केला गेला आहे. स्वतःची ओळख करून घेणे हे महत्वाचे, देव माना अथवा मानू नका. पण स्वरूप अनुभवा. हेच अद्वैत वेदांत सांगतो.
तर अश्या प्रकारे ब्रह्मन् ची ओळख करून घेणारा ब्राह्मण असतो. जन्माने कोणीही ब्राह्मण होत नाही.
मी स्वतःला ब्राह्मण मानत नाही आणि फक्त माणूस अशी जात मला लिहिता येत नाही ते सुद्धा कायद्याच्या कमतरतेमुळे.
ज्या दिवशी मी त्या रस्त्यावर असेन जेथे मला “मी“काय ते ओळखायचं त्या दिवशी मी ब्राह्मण असेन. आणि ते देखील मला ब्राह्मण बोलणारे हे लोक असतील कारण मला स्वतःला त्या गोष्टी बद्दल ना आस्था असेल ना महत्व की मला काय म्हणून ओळ्खतायत.
माझ्या मते आणि वेदांतच्या मते देखील संत ज्ञानेश्वर, तुकाराम , नामदेव, स्वामी विवेकानंद , बुद्ध, कबीर, रुमी, सुलतान बहू, राम, कृष्ण, बुल्लह शाह हे खरे ब्राह्मण. आपण त्यांना केवळ ते कोणत्या जातीत जन्माला आले त्या जातीवरून ओळखायचं बघतो.
जो कोणीही माणूस म्हणून जन्माला आला आणि ज्याने कर्मयोग, ज्ञानयोग, भक्तियोग किंवा कोणत्याही मार्गाने स्वतःला जाणून घ्येयला प्रयत्न केलेला असा प्रत्येक जण ब्राह्मण आहे.
त्यामुळेच विश्वामित्र हे जन्माने क्षत्रिय असून, वाल्या कोळी हा इतर जातीचा असून, त्यांना ब्राह्मण हे पद मिळाले.
केवळ ब्राह्मण आडनाव असलेल्या घरात जन्माला आलेला कधीच ब्राह्मण नसतो. केवळ व्यर्थ अभिमान असतो.
प्रत्येकाने जर खरच प्रामाणिक प्रयत्न केला तर atleast आपण खरच काय आहोत याची जाणीव तरी होईल. अगदीच काही नाही तर खोटे अहंकार गळून पडतील.
मी आत्ता तरी केवळ एक माणूस आहे. आणि जवळपास आजूबाजूला असलेले सगळे जण. पण कधीतरी ब्राह्मण बनेन आणि प्रत्येकाचा स्वतःला या level जा जाणे हा मूलभूत अधिकार आहे. कारण प्रत्येकात तोच ब्रह्मन् निवास करतो, तेच तत्व निवास करते. ज्या प्रमाणे घरातील इलेक्ट्रिसिटी ही एकच असते पण ती दृश्यमान होते ती कधी बल्ब च्या रुपात म्हणजे प्रकाशाच्या रुपात, कधी फॅन च्या रुपात म्हणजे हवेच्या रुपात आणि कधी हीट च्या रुपात. पण सगळ्यामध्ये तीच electricity तोच करंट खेळत असतो. अगदी तसेच आहे सगळे आपण पण.
आणि एकदा ही जाणीव झाली की मीच सगळे आहे तर मी कसा कोणाचा द्वेष करू शकेन, कसे कोणाचे वाईट करू शकेन?
मला आशा आहे मी प्रयत्न केलाय जास्तीत जास्त सोपे लिहायचा. काही लिहिन्यातल्या त्रुटींमुळे समजले नसल्यास माफी असावी.
Mayur The Lone Wolf
Please do read the previous blogs regaring reality so it would be better in understanding this blog.
We have talked about different types of realities and how it is linked with our suffering or happiness both. We talked about the higher level of realities means the enlightenment, where person achieves those realities or dimensions, where he can get rid of the suffering and pain and even from the pleasure. Basically going beyond the duality.
So how to achieve this higher Reality?
There are different ways to achieve it. There are so many paths. Like dhyan yoga, karmyoga, devotion, hath yoga. But we forget the most straightforward and direct path, which is to ask question “what am I?” All these paths mentioned above also root down to the same question. But there are many diversions, processes, achievements and failures, while walking those paths.
But the path of questioning ourselves that what am I? Is most straight forward. There is no magic, no hard work, no limitations, no belief system, no religion, no God and Goddesses. It’s a path of seeking, where we keep asking the questions. Where we are open to every new idea, new questions and answers.
So I will try to Generalis this route. There are mainly 3 stages of it.
1. Shravan (listening)
Where a person listens to the scriptures. Where person tries to know about the different dimensions and try to understand what am I? This listening is always benificial when it is from the experienced person called as Guru. Guru’s task is to just tell you whatever he can. To guide you without expectations from ou. You have to listen it with full absorption. You have to grasp it with the brain and intellectual. So till now it’s a theory for us. Where we try to analyse the different dimensions and how am I different from everything we experience. Where our brain tries to understand or make anologies which is kind of beyond every sense. Where you try to understand and ask as many as question about who am I. May be every answer will not satisfy you. But atleast you get some theoretical answer from the experienced person.
here I want to make one thing clear in between the real Guru and other fake entities to call themselves as guru or aster.
The most important difference in between the real Guru and other religious priests or so called intellectuals and scholars is that, the Guru never expect anything from you. H(S)e will never bound you with any kind of rules and regulations. But h(S)e is always ready to help you out. Even if you leave him/her, h(S)e won’t take it in a negative way. Real Guru gives you full freedom to nurture yourself. Because h(S)e himself is the enlightened entity he acts like that.
Then the second stage comes.
Manan: ( thinking deep about whatever you have listened).
This stage we can call as a meditation as well. Where we are processing data in your mind. With full focus and concentration. We try to experience whatever we listened. We try to go deeper and deeper inside us. Where mostly we start realising things sooner or later depends on person to person. We actually try to digest whatever we have listened from our Guru.
Aaj person is going deep down to find himself, he might experience so many hidden good and bad about him as a mind. At this stage a person starts getting stable with focus.
Then automatically the third stage begins.
Nidhidhyas: (continuous reminding experiencing) the fact about my true nature, which is divine. )
Nidhi mean continuous and dhyasa means being behind the motive. So it is like thinking and behaving continuously for the goal.
In Marathi language it is also called as taildharawat (तैलधारावत). That means, when you pour the oil into something, the oil keeps falling in other vessel continuously without disturbance, in a continuous stream.
So here a person continuously starts thinking and realising that he is the divine one. Even though he is active in the day to day life, his focus on the self realisation doesn’t get disturbed as it used to be. Most of the time he cam do his everyday jobs effortlessly and he can focus on his meditation at the same time.
Many times he may get defocused but the task of the person is to take ifocus back on himself. That’s why it is called as the Nididhyasa.
So these are the three steps to have the self-realization very easily and in very direct way.
Now the question arises if it is really very direct and simple way then why doesn’t everyone get it? Why people struggle even on this path?
First we need to understand one thing that one should have really have a passion to realise the higher reality. Most of the people follow the path for just a intellectual adventure and then leave in between. That’s why very few get till the end of the race.
The second reason is there are some milestones where everyone needs to take care of something. Which are the kind of hurdles.
So what are those hurdles? Because this hurdles are created by mind and intellectual. as well as some part of it is because of some external conditions.
so we will try to analyse what are those hurdles in the next blog. How to tackle them is very important.
Till the time just keep asking yourself only one question “what I am I?” Just close your eyes and try to find out that I. Which is neither the body nor mind nor intellectual. I am sure even a one minute time is sufficient to realise the part of divinity in yourself.
The Lone wolf.
In the The Reality-1 we saw the types of realities according to the Upanishads.
In The Reality-2 blog we saw the 3rd reality means the enlightenment state in little depth. We tried to learn, what is Brahman?
In this blog we will try to understand what are the steps to know this brahmin and self. the steps to wake up from the day today reality into the enlightenment state.
so here we will brush up again some things.
What is the most profound statement of Advait Vedanta?
I am Brahmin.
So here two questions arises.
- What am I?
- What is Brahmin?
So lets ask yourself.
There is a beautiful statement in Vedanta:
I am not what is experienced but I am the one who experiences it.
to understand it we will see some part again in little depth.
- Are you this body? Physical body?
You may say , yes I am.
Ok then, so you mean to say right now your right hand Is also you.
Suppose If we cut you right hand (just for imagination, I am not that cruel yet …), what will you say?
Is it still you? You will say that my right hand is laying there. But it will be your hand not you, yourself.
You are still there even your hand has gone. Like this, if we remove most of the organs, still you will be there (obviously in worst pain and cursing me for it). And the point will come where it will be your body lying somewhere and you are observing it. Which means a dead body without you inside it. What does that mean?
I AM NOT THE BODY.
2. Are you the mind? Your emotions?
You will say yes.
Ok let’s accept you are your mind.
Have you observed that your mind runs so freely all the time? When you sleep in the dream state you feel that you are in the dream itself.
When you wake up your world is changed totally. So is it really you? At the same time you know you can control your mind.
Isn’t it a obvious statement which says you can control your mind, means you and your mind are different things. You are something above the mind.
So when we go to that depth then we understand one thing.
I AM NOT MIND OR EMOTIONS
3. Are you the Intellect?
We claim or say or do everything in our life what our intellect command us. Even when I say that “I am Mayur”, that means its my knowledge. My name is Mayur, and having knowledge about it is my intellect. So almost everything we do in our life is only because of our intellect.
But a point when we are in the deep sleep. At that time nothing exists, neither any knowledge about self, or others or even dream state. For those moments we are like a dead person. But still something exists there which is silently observing that state as well. But it is not intellect.
So Intellect is a very deep identity of myself but we can say that I AM NOT INTELLECT either.
So exactly what am I? which is not my body, mind or intellect.
Vedanta says brahmin is the same. According to Vedanta brahmin is the one Which cannot be experienced.
So obviously according to Advait Vedanta, Brahmin is a state is which is beyond explanation. It is a state of just being and bliss which cannot be explained.
Then the obvious question would come like, how can we believe that such thing does even exist?
If the Brahmin is beyond the senses of physical body, beyond the imagination of the mind and beyond the knowledge of intellectual then how to realise it?
So how can one experience which is beyond experience of physical sense , emotional or mental sense or even intellectual sense? To experience that bliss. That permanent being.
The Advaita Vedanta says one cannot know the real Brahmin or himself as the divine because of ignorance. And what is the ignorance? The ignorance of self. As most of the human being identify themselves as either human body or mind or intellectual. The Brahmin is beyond all this.
Now the most confusing statements will come here so try to read it very slowly by understanding the meaning of each statement.
Advait Vedanta says you always have realisation of yourself. How?
Because we always know I do exist, Whether I am in a dream state or awakens state or deep sleep state. Just we don’t try to feel it. What does that exactly means?
I will try to give a simple example what we face everyday. We look at the other people, we look at all the objects around us. But have you seen your own eyes or your own face? no I am not talking about the face you look into the mirror for any kind of reflective surface. I am talking about directly looking into your eyes for your face. It’s impossible. Whatever you do, you are not capable to look at our own face directly. Does it mean that you don’t have eyes or face? No. You have a face.
Even though we don’t have the direct experience of the eyes or our face but we have always realisation that I have eyes and I have a face. This is the realisation of the fact.
if you correlate this example with the Brahmin or the soul or divine yourself, You will realise that you do exist always irrespective of your body, mind or intellectual.
That is why Swami Vivekananda used to say that I feel so sad because you cannot understand what you are.
so this is the first step to acknowledge and repeat yourself that I am not the body, I am not the mind, I am not the intellectual, I am not the sufferer, but I am the Brahman who do exists permanently. And repeating this continuously will lead you to the real realisation of yourself.
then the automatic question will arise that is this theoretical knowledge sufficient to realise what I am? Will it give realisation as well?
Asking the question daily about “What am I? “ is the start of the journey towards inward. To know ourselves, to get escape from all the suffering and pain and even happiness. Towards Bliss. Which is the true nature of self. Understanding it deeply most of the time in the day to day life we will start realising things.
How to make all these practices profound and flawless also has techniques.
The steps towards the realisation are
- Shravan (listening as exact translation, but it means collecting knowledge by listening or reading the texts from self realised people or gurus and masters.)
- Manan ( thinking about it deeply)
- Nididhyasa (trying realizing those words what your mind has accepted by now.)
I will try to explain these 3 main things in the next part of Reality:4.
what are the difficulties or questions one may ask while doing above things. There might be many doubts while walking this path. So will mainly discuss the process of walking down this path.
Till the time let’s start with the very basic thing by asking a most profound question. At least we know by now with our theoretical knowledge that I am not body, mind or intellectual.
SO start asking one question from now again and again and deeply…….
“ WHAT AM I?”
Am I this body?
Am I this mind?
Am I this intellectual?
Then what am I??
I am the soul of soul. I am the Brahmin . I am the supreme Devine . Am not the surlfferer, but I am the constant bliss. The silent observer.
-Mayur The Lone Wolf
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The above photo I took in Dubai. No I am not explaining about the photo or how did i take it. It’s a general thought process.
I do play chess a lot. It’s an interesting game. I was playing the game with my friend who has wooden set of chess. we were playing the game and I was in really bad situation. I just had two pawns, king and queen on the board.
Suddenly my friend’s mother called him for something to get in. So he just went inside the kitchen. While thinking the move to avoid checkmate I had this thought I am sharing Below.
Queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard. Queen can move anywhere across the board. If you lose the queen it’s very difficult to win the game because Queen holds 9 points. Many players lose their hopes to win after losing their queen.
Exactly in opposite way, the king is like most weak as a Pawn. Because King can only move 1 Block. The value of king is also very less. I mean in terms of points. King holds one point.
So if you see the game scenario, it feels and seems that Queen has more rights, it is way more powerful than the king. It seems like King is very much dependent on the queen.
No, I am not talking about any women rights or husband and wife or any kind of social life and rules. I am trying to correlate the queen and king in our day to day life. Our very personal life. Spiritual or eternal life.
King and queen are like soul and physical body. In our day to day life we know how much we care about our body. we know that if we lose our body we are going to die. We try to give everything with what our body demands. Then it may be the health related thing or pleasure related thing or mental satisfaction. We always do whatever is required for our physical body. Basically we live for that.
But we hardly even notice about the soul. yes, when we discuss kind of philosophical stuff or at certain occasions we try to think about soul. But most of the time we live and think as a physical body. The way we take care of our physical body, we never try to know our soul or to take care of the soul. We never nurture it. We never ask our soul that what do you want? I know the question is wrong here because the question should be what I really want?
So the king is the soul and the queen is the body. And in the chess, the queen means body is totally free, wild, powerful. we give most importance to the queen, we always try to save the queen. Even though our main motive of the game is to save the king we hardly recognise it.
Weather it’s chess or real life even if the queen (physical body) leaves the board, game is still ON.
But when king (soul) leaves the board. Queen (body) goes straight into the wooden box.
The Lone Wolf
I was reading the book named as “The Fakir” by the Ruzbeh Bharucha. It is one of the best book I have ever read. While reading, I stuck at one quote from the book, which was about the Trust and Love. I was clean bold by those 4 to 5 statements quote. I felt I have found something very logical. I will mention that quote later in this blog, but not here. Because its a very interesting.
Before going to that quote, I want to ask the question:
What is Love? What is Trust? Are they related? Are they dependant over each other?
I am so sure that most of you are going to say a big YES. I was also thinking the same before. Even if you google, most of the quotes you will find are as below:
But NO. big NO – NO.
Yes its little shocking.
Love and trust are totally opposite things.
Now you will say that I am always trying to do as usual controversial statement. How is it possible to love someone if there is no trust and vice versa.
Just give me one chance to clarify myself, and try to understand the explanation and then decide yourself.
We never think deeply. We easily state that love without trust is not possible or without trust how love is not possible.
But the fact is these are totally different words with different meanings.
What is Pure Love? Pure and real love is always without expectations. Real lover never expect anything from his beloved. Whatever the front person does really doesn’t matter. Real lover keeps loving the person irrespective of the behavior of the front person. As an example from our day to day life, the way mother loves her child. The kid might be very naughty, and even if it is old enough and become gangster, mother always loves her child. that’s why mother’s love is considered as highest pure form of love in most of the species.
What is Trust? Trust itself carries the burden of expectations. how? When you say to a particular person that you trust him that means….that person has fulfilled your expectations till now and because of which you can trust him. because if the same person has constantly failed you or did not meet your expectations how will you trust that person? This clearly says to trust someone he or she needs to fulfil your expectations first.
Now check my most favourite quote I was talking bout in the beginning.
I hope this quote is quite clear. But I will try to explain it in little depth. There might be few questions and I am trying to guess them as I also had after reading this quote.
Why to trust God or master not the other people? Wont they break our trust?
Generally people have these emotions for the god or some Guru like figure.
- Submission and Surrender
If something happens unfortunate or bad in our life, yes we blame sometimes to God and master that why this is happening to me? Why are you punishing me? but the feeling of devotion Never Goes away. We accept the thing like it had meant to be happened in our life for my own good or my past karmas or whatever logical illogical reason.
As an example: If somebody’s partner cheats over him/her then that person is going to be disappointed for sure but he/she won’t blame the god or master that why it happened?
If someone we love passes away we just accept it as our fate or the destiny. When you have the emotions of surrender you accept everything whatever is given. But these emotions of surrender is not possible in between partners or parents and children or friendship. It is most rare.
That’s why trust is only possible when you have the emotion of surrender. Because you are trust never gets break their. You do accept everything irrespective of good or bad.
Because of such trust only many fake Babajis are making their businesses.
So I hope where trust works and where it doesn’t is clear now. But the another question is Why to Love everybody but not to trust anybody?
It means that if you try to love everybody you will forgive them for their mistakes, you will not expect things from them. Because love is without expectations. When you love people, automatically you start feeling compassion, empathy, sympathy and forgiveness.
In this worldly life I will dare to say, the love of parents for their child is kind of true love generally one can experience. Even though the child is not behaving as per the parents still they love him. Whatever he does, they might not like it but still they forgive him and accept him. They always give so many chances to their children to improve themselves. Of course I wont say that it is a purest form of love as there are many hidden motives behind it but we are not considering them as of now.
Trust can be the first step towards the real love. but not always. Because the love for the society, country, less fortunate people and everyone around us doesn’t need trust at the first place. When some one falls from the motor cycle, we run towards him to help him out without thinking whether he is trustworthy or not.
In personal relationships yes trust can be the start, but the result must be the real love. Here trust act as the seed. But the way seed has to manifest itself into the big tree the trust has to manifest into the real love. And when there is a grown tree, seed is not in existence anymore. In the same way when true love emerges the trust factor nullifies.
So how all of this is going to help us in our life?
Most of the mental disturbance and mental problems are because of some one breaks our heart or do not meet the expectations. somebody is not behaving as per my expectation that means the person is breaking my trust. My Expectations is the cause of our most of the problems in daily life. So when you start loving them instead of trusting them you automatically avoid so many issues. Slowly slowly you will start feeling the amazing peaceful life. Yes this is not the simple change but it is the permanent change which will make life permanently way better eventually.
In simple words if you don’t trust anybody there are least chances of your heart breaks.
so never give the remote control of your own happiness calmness and satisfaction into anybody’s hand. always have remote control of your own satisfaction in only and only your hands.
Mayur the Lone Wolf.